St. Louis radio show host highlights suicide prevention after body of trolls shames him
Feeling pretty is not a job requirement for Lux, host of the 105.7 The Point radio show, but on occasions like PointFest, she will take the opportunity to dress, something she enjoys doing, knowing that video interviews quickly became part of his job. As the men at her station don jeans and a t-shirt for PointFest, Lux goes for something prettier – in this case, a fitted pink dress and jacket, which compliment the color of her hair.
There was no way to know the monochrome outfit would attract social media vitriol, but what started out as a negative moment turned into an opportunity for mental health awareness.
When Lux posted a photo of herself on Facebook at the event, she left it unattended while she went about her workday, interviewing groups like Shinedown and enjoying the event. As she returned to share the photo of herself and Shinedown after their interview, she opened up the comments section on the original post. The comments struck a chord.
A man had commented on her appearance – especially her body and the way “Jenny Craig called”.
Lux’s scroll continued, this time with another man commenting on how far the radio personality’s eyes are and that she “was trying to show off a cleavage with below average A’s.”
“For some reason the way the comments were presented really touched me in a way that told me I had to stand up for myself,” Lux said in an interview with the RFT. “At least to raise awareness that I am one of the millions of people who are faced with this stuff and the damage it can really cause. When you think you’re just making sarcastic or funny comments online, you have no idea what it’s doing to the other person on the other side.
Lux has struggled with mental health issues and is recovering from an eating disorder. She lost a friend by suicide. Because of these experiences, the radio show host walked for years and raised funds for the Missouri chapter of the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention. The comments hit as Lux prepares to walk again on September 26, pushing her further to draw attention to the trolls.
“When people tell you this stuff, it adds up to low self-esteem, low self-confidence and low self-esteem, depressions, sadness, loneliness, anger – all of them. those emotions that are risk factors for suicide, ”says Lux. “So I thought, ‘Well, I’m walking, I’m fundraising. And if nothing else, I must also remind people that these kinds of words are heavy. You don’t know where someone is, what they are dealing with in their life. And, you know, even having a few a week can be really, really dangerous.
The radio show’s personality says she gets about ten to twenty comments like this a week, but she couldn’t get rid of it for some reason.
As a target of trolling and harassment, she notes that the impact of these comments accumulates over time. “Your body is always absorbing that kind of punch, that criticism, that grimace, that embarrassment, that shame, whatever it is,” she says.
Lux adds that while her male counterparts at the station have also been humiliated, the sexism towards female appearances cannot be ignored. She thanks her colleagues for providing a support system. Still, she finds that many people seem to view harassment as just part of her job, or that she invites scrutiny of her body because she works in the media industry.
“The old expression ‘face for the radio’ came from the fact that we weren’t used to being seen. So we didn’t really care about that, ”Lux says with a laugh. “And now that I’m here all the time, I appreciate it. I am happy to use the platform to explore creativity and talk about important causes.
The recent instances of body shame she has shared publicly have sparked a surge of support from her fans and the Shinedown group. Lux turned the moment into an awareness of how these comments can affect people.
She has drawn the attention of her subscribers to the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention, an organization close to her heart, in articles on The Next Walk. CEO Robert Gabbia said in a press release that suicide awareness walks in which Lux actively participates can help turn “hope into action”. Last year, the walks raised $ 25 million for the foundation’s education and support programs.
The Missouri iteration of the walk, called Out of the Darkness and held virtually last year due to COVID-19, drew 1,255 participants and raised over $ 180,000.
“We hope that as we walk we will bring attention to this issue and prevent other families from suffering loss through suicide,” said Kellen Wolters, co-chair of the foundation’s Missouri chapter of the board, in A press release. “Our ultimate goal is to save lives and restore hope to those affected by suicide. ”
The awareness-raising mission is also played out in digital spaces. Instagram has become a place where Lux talks candidly about her mental health issues. After receiving the comments, she shared on her platform a TikTok video about her experience with body shame – so far the video has attracted nearly 15,000 views and hundreds of comments on Instagram. She continues to poke fun at comments, a creative way not to keep her feelings bottled up, she says.
## greenscreen the first 3 minute videos, but body shame is not tolerated here. Thanks @shinedown for yesterday’s chat! ## pointfest was always amazing!
♬ original sound – Lux
Making videos is just one way to confront the impact of body shame. Lux notes that “talking saves lives” is one of the AFSP’s slogans, which it strives to do by being open on its platforms. For her, it is about making “silly” videos, but for others, it may be about writing it. The goal is twofold, explains Lux, to bring out feelings but also to talk about problems and “to feel comfortable and not ashamed of it”.
Lux says she made the videos to publicly address the situation and “teach people to be nice.” When asked if the trolls ever apologize, she replies that, while shocking, it does happen. She says that sometimes they reach out to apologize and tell her what they said sounded awful. Other times they try to explain what they meant.
“I love having these conversations,” says Lux. “It’s more important than ever now that we allow each other to evolve. We’re all going to get into it. We are all going to stumble. We are all going to fall. We’re all going to make mistakes, but if you’re willing to admit it and then make the effort to make that change, I think it takes courage, bullets to get back into my DMs and say, “You know what. ? It was not cool. ‘
Lux participates in the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention Walk on September 26. You can register to join the walk on the organization’s website and participate in Creve Coeur Lake from 12 p.m. to 3:30 p.m. or donate to the cause on support.afsp. org.
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